children

I can't remember if we've done this before . . .

If you don't have kids, do you want them?

If you do have kids, do you want more?

What about your SO?

neither have kids...

both of us have this sudden baby fever... i do NOT know why... but I think we both want one--- AFTER we're married.

I don't want kids. I never wanted them, I'm genuinely scared of children. The only ones I can tolerate are my young half siblings! I feel like something is wrong with me and other people definitely think something is wrong with me for not wanting children (or they just say I'll want them in a few years), but I really, really don't want them. I'm even in denial of ever having been one myself!

I'm single, but the man in question is snipped, which would be convenient if we ended up together.

I dont have any children....

If you asked me right now if I ever wanted kids I would have to say NO...but I could change my mind about 10 years from now....no sooner. There is too much I want to to before I have kids and I am way too selfish.

My boyfriend and I just had a conversation about this last weekend and he wants to have 2 kids.

I want to have a baby sooooooooooooo baaaaaaaaaaaaad. :(

awww Em - you'll get your baby! (((hug)))


If I decide to have kids they will be adopted.

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totally into adopting also.

I want children. No more than 2 probably.

I want to have a baby sooooooooooooo baaaaaaaaaaaaad. :(

MEEEEEEE TOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!

I definitely want children......Gotta continue my bloodline....:) .....I wouldn't mind having one right now, but with me being in school full-time and working part time it would be tough...Plus I do kind of have this anxious feeling because a lot of my friends have/are having kids......I like kids anyway so I'm anxious to teach them about everything in life...Of course I'd rather have a boy simply because I want to put him in sports and take him to the park and play with him......A girl is cool as long as I have at least one boy....

I want kids sooooo bad....we want to try for a baby in a few months.

Hubby has 3 sons, but wants to have more.

I don't have kids and don't want them. Hope that doesn't change down the line

I'm sittin on the fence on this one. I waver back and forth pretty frequently...as in several times a day at times. And my BF is sittin there with me. We're both not sure if we want to or not. I tend to think about it too much and usually talk myself out of it, but there's definately an urge and an instinct there...almost a NEED. But yeah, I tend to convince myself that it's not what I want....and I go around and around.

we have 3 and 2 fur babies.... my boys are 19 and 22 and his daughter is 13. she lives with us.

LOL Nessa! What a bad mommy I am...I forgot to list my fur babies! I have two - did have three but I lost my kitty this winter.

I dont have any fur babies at the moment :( My puppy had to be put down last summer, he was 14.

Aw, that's so sad Missy. I'm dreading the day that I lose my old girl. She's 15 now.

I have ALWAYS wanted children, maybe not as badly as Emzak and GS (I gotta finish school first!!) But as soon as I graduate I'm gonna start trying (regardless if I'm married!!)
I want one, possibly two. I'd like a girl (her name will be Emma Lee) and possibly a boy (still figuring names, Shane wants to use Lorenzo as a middle name, it was his granddad's name!)

I have one fur baby Pippin (hamster) a scale baby Miso (turtle) and a feather baby Brigid (cockatiel).

When I was a teener and young adult (20-23) I did not want kids. As a little girl, I did. I was obsessed with it, but by my teens, I was like... OH HELL NO, evil bastards! :eek: But maybe I'm partially aspie like my son, too. ;) Socially inept, I was.

Anywho, in my last semester in college I got smacked with a doozie. Whoops!!! Oh damn. There goes my future... *flush*

WELL, I gotta say this... while I thought I'd make a lousy parent and I thought my future was gone, neither of those things happened. I just had a different future than the one I planned. And it's BETTER. Richer, more interesting, more turbulant, more loving, much, much more exciting. Things didn't turn out how I planned, but they turned out better. Thanks lil big man. ;)

Then I had my daughter 5 years later, cuz I KNEW I loved being a mother and being pregnant. And I loved that pregnancy, too. And there is nothing in this world quite like feeling a life moving around in your body and talking to it and sharing it with your SO and the EXCITEMENT and anticipation. And then there is nothing like looking into your babies eyes in the first few hours after its born... and then 10 years later, looking into his sleeping face and seeing that tiny baby you held in your arms, its an overwhelming feeling of joy. The only way to explain it thoroughly is to experience it. <---- all this from someone who hated God for making her a GIRL way back in the day.

Do I want to do it again??? OH HELL YEAH! My co-worker and sister are both pregnant right now and it's SOOOOO wonderful watching/hearing them talk about their pregnancies and those very same feelings of anticipating and excitement... brings tears to my eyes and a smile to my face. I could go through pregnancy many more times and love every one of them, but ONE will do.

And then maybe 10 more years down the line, we'll foster or adopt another child, because I always wanted to do that, too. But, if I do that, it won't be a baby I adopt/foster, but an older child who really NEEDS a home.

Anyway, I love being a mother. It's a joy unparalleled by anything else I've experienced... and I didn't even want them in the 20 year old version of myself. I'm so glad my destiny was changed by that one little WHOOPS.

~phos

That sounds great, Phos, I'm really glad for you.

Personally I have never liked babies, even as a child, I would stay far away when my friends were babysitting. Even dolls freaked me out! I think I have a genuine phobia. These days I suppose I also have a bit of a grudge because I have close friends who have become parents and all they can talk about now are their babies - even those who were 'cool' and vowed they'd never be like that. I try to be interested, but how could I possibly understand? My mother and my grandmother weren't the best of mothers - they were great parents who gave their kids a safe home with all material needs covered, but they were not loving in the sense that they never have physical contact with their children and they don't tell them that they love them. I'm quite sure I'd struggle with that too, and no child should be raised like that. But I don't even WANT to want kids. So far I believe I'm the only one here that doesn't want them.

At this rate I wouldn't be afraid to be 'spayed'.

I've always wanted children, ever since I was little. I always thought I'd rather be a mother than anything else in the world. Now that I've got my hubby around, I really am ready for kids now. I guess it hard to see the other opinion. For me, I cant understand not wanting children, I've just never felt that way.

Hopefully next year I'll actually be a mom.

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Those are my boys. Jason age 4 and Bryson age 10.

I only wanted one and I wanted a boy. Then when I met and later married my husband I felt I was being a tad unfair to myself. I was so not into the having babies from 2 different daddy's. But then I got to thinking....I have a husband, a house, and a car this time around. I'm still broke but not like I was when I had Bryson.

So, there is a 6 year age difference between my boys and that's why. I got my tubes tied before Jason was a year old. I DO NOT WANT ANYMORE. My husband was mad as hell. And he has 4 all together. 2 girls from his first. He wanted more:eek: I told him to getting working on his third wife.

Just for the record...he is finiancially responsible for all 4 religously. As for the rest of the responsibility? Talk to the ex about that one.

~Jenna

Sorry about the hugness. I am still workin' on the whole post-a-pic thing.:D

~Jenna

i have 1 boy, he will be 5 y/o next month. his name is Elijah- well thats what we call him anyway lol.

I have three children, ages 25, 15, and 6. Age gaps are my life! he he!

Yay Jenna! And this face... oh man, it melts my heart:

My Lira Belle:
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And the Lil Big Man with braces (so no smile):
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He's lost nearly 15 lbs since this picture was taken and about a pound of hair. LOL! He suffers from the family disease of insanely big, cowlicky hair. ;)

~phos

He suffers from the family disease of insanely big, cowlicky hair. ;)

~phos
I suffered that affliction as a youth.

LOL Poll. My dad and brother still suffer from it majorly, so I know Gee won't outgrow it. :( for him. Except, that he has absolutely NO chance of ever going bald. But, he also will never be able to grow a beard. A goatee, sure, but not a beard. It will never happen. Too much Cherokee. He's a GREAT kid, though. Despite his abnormalities (Asperger's and allergies), he is a testimony of determination and optimism!

~phos

I definitely definitely want to have children and soon. I dont think my boyfriend is on the same boat, but I dont want to have children until we are married. Besides that, he has one son like most of you know already. He tried having a child with his ex wife so I know he wouldnt mind having more children. I guess we'll see, I hope he doesnt get the "I'm getting to old to have kids" set of mind, because that will be a big disappointment.

I understand completly Marianna,I don't have kids,never wanted any.

People ask me if I have any kids,I say say "No,I ate my young":eek:

Kids seem to like me,I think it's the thing with the animals.some kids are cute.I hate being around brats though.I don't hold babies either.

I think some people make great parents,others should never have reproduced....I know a family on the next road over that has 3,they neglect these kids so bad.They had them in their 20's ,now they are in their 30's and want to party and be coke heads instead of parents.Makes me sick to see these kids so starved for attention.I hate these people for what they are doing to these kids lives.I mean If your gonna be a "fuck up",that's one thing,but WHY take an innocent victim with you(eg: the kids).

My friends tell me what a great mother I would be,I didn't want to be one though.

I don't think people who "love kids" necessarily make the best parents. You shouldn't have kids because you want a baby... that stage passes very quickly... but if you want a FAMILY, and all that goes with it, I think kids are great.

I had a very loving and supportive family, and I would love to provide that for a child. I also have a very close relationship with my parents--- they're my best friends. My boyfriends parents are in their 80's... their kids and grandkids help them with yardwork and visit regularly and make it possible for them to still live in their own home....

A lot of their friends are alone and living in homes and don't get visitors... I am not saying that I want kids in order for them to take care of me when I'm older, but I hope to always have people in my life who care for me and who will be able to help because that's what family does.

I understand completly Marianna,I don't have kids,never wanted any.

Whew! :) I'm all for reproduction of our species, but I'm happy to let others take care of that. Though, as skibunny says, some people should never be parents at all, even if they like kids.

I agree with you there entirely skibunny. :D

Nafadda and Marianna and the rest of you who don't want kids, I don't have anything whatsoever against any of ya and would never try to talk you into having kids or try to make you think you're insane for not wanting them, either. I respect your decisions and reasons, too. Not everyone should be parents, ya got that right! One of my life long friends and his wife have been married some 12+ years and do not intend to have children, and I think they are both WONDERFUL people who are totally living the high life and I've got nothing but respect for their decision as well... and it doesn't matter a lick to me whether they'd make GREAT parents (cuz they would) or not.

But for some of those, who like me, find themselves in an unfortunate position ~ as I did ~ you CAN turn it into something wonderful and enjoy it to its fullest.

There are all kinds of people that keep the world going 'round. I got nuthin' but respect for people who do what they think is right for themselves and their families ~ whether their family is their spouse, their animals, their kids or what have you.

:D
~phos

What a sweet post!

I'm a lil late, but I'm going to add in here... that YES I want kids. I at least want a little girl, but if I had a boy first, I'd try again. I only want 2 kids tho -- hopefully I'll have a girl.

My boyfriend has 2 kids, but they are my age...so...they aren't young.

Hopefully we'll begin the process soon. I want to finish school first, but...I may have to make some changes. He even says he wouldn't mind being a stay at home dad. LOL!

I think I do... but I really wouldn't want more than two. I have no timeline... but I definitely don't want them soon. No rush :) I've helped raise all three of my younger siblings and I know that babies can also make you crazy. I just know its not the right thing for me just yet.

I would like to have kids eventually.

I have an 11 year old daughter. But I want one more with all of my heart. When my daughter was first born, I knew there was nothing more wonderful. I tried to go back to work and was miserable. So I taught myself a new skill and now spend my days at home working and being a mom.

My bf definately wants a child of his own as well. I wish I had an infinite amount of time to have children, but I'm 38 now and feel like my chances at having another grow slimmer every month.

I don't want to bring a child into the world without a steady foundation though, therein lies the problem I guess.

I ask myself how long before I am sure we will be together forever.. I was with my daughters dad for 12 years.. so I guess 12 days, 12 weeks, 12 months, 12 years.. you just can't know, can you?

I have never met anyone as wonderful, honest, driven, stable, loving, attentive, hard-working and sweet as my boyfriend. He is everything all the other men in my life never were. I want to give him everything.. so I guess now I wait for the big question :) then it's baby time.

Wow.. I really feel better writing all this.. did I even answer the question?

I want children more than anything!!
Particullarly right now for some reason. My biological clock is driving me NUTS!! But untill I finish school I have these two loves to fill my life.

First my "Son" Brigid (yeah I know it's a girls name!)
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and my darling neice Breanna! I just wish I could see her more often than once a month!! (she lives in Vegas with my sister!)
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I do want kids. I would love to have a girl right now :p but that's not going to happen, first I need to finish school and get financial stability.

My bf definately wants a child of his own as well. I wish I had an infinite amount of time to have children, but I'm 38 now and feel like my chances at having another grow slimmer every month.

I don't want to bring a child into the world without a steady foundation though, therein lies the problem I guess.

Sorry, I'm just catching up on old threads and just saw this one.

One option--if you have the finances and stomach for it--is to freeze your eggs and/or one ovary. With the increasing popularity of IVF and other assisted reproductive technologies, single women and young couples who are not ready to have a baby can now freeze their eggs/embryos while they are still viable. Medical science is finally beating the biological clock! :eek:

I think I want kids when I am a bit older, but maybe my wanting for children will increase with age. I want an Emma and an Evan. :)

Well, I wanted 6 boys and 3 girls got 3 girls and 1 boy. i started so late in life having them after 30. but my career as an actor needed to be stable b4 i had any.I also couldn't find a man that wanted a lot of children never was in that circle of friends. most didn't want any or couldn't have any at all. I'm 51 right now and would love to have just one more. my husband is 37 and can't have any. so i guess 4 will be what i will have

Yeah cwe have one son, and yeah we'll like to have more kids 3 more, i like big families

I never thougt about baby thing before my boyfriend tell me that two people can be very happy together if they don't have a kid. I am 25 now. And I start to consider how important having a baby to me. I think i am looking forward to have one with the man i love.

We don't have kids and neither of us wants kids. Sure, kids can be cute and funny, and I am sure for some people it brings them a lot of joy to watch their child learn, grow and change as they get older, but we both feel we would get so much more happiness out of spending 100% of our love and free time on each other instead.

I would love at least one more. (Chris would love another 6 more, but he's never here so :p )
5 sounds a great number right now, but we'll see what 4 is like first!!

While I am still not completely sure, I am definitely leaning towards NO KIDS more and more as time goes by. For some of the reasons Hapa listed above, and not only for our free time together, but also free time for myself which I greatly value.

And the more time I spend with kids the least I like them :evil: no offense to anybody though, I just do not believe it is for us right now. I cannot wait until I get my puppy though! :D