Lanners05 02-09-2006, 05:30 PM His ex-wife is pregnant...or so she says. Leigh thinks she's telling the truth. I have my doubts. She asked Leigh not to mention it to their kids. She says she took an EPT yesterday and it was positive. She says the guy wants her to keep it. I'm thinking it's time to get a lawyer and say nay nay to alimony and get custody of Jason. I don't know...it smells fishy to me. I'm not sure what her motives would be for lying about it, but I'm convinced that she's certifiably insane. Any thoughts would help.
Alanna:o
christina923 02-09-2006, 08:00 PM maybe i'm missing something... his EX wife...so how would that affect you both now??
Lanners05 02-09-2006, 08:07 PM Well...point well taken! I'll be honest and say...I'm a bit jealous and weirded out and angry and worried about his son's mental state. I'm jealous because she's 46 having a baby and I'm 25 and can't! I'm weirded out because she's around my mom's age and I'd flip if she was pregnant! I'm angry because all I can think of is Leigh paying alimony to help support her and her baby! And lastly, I'm worried that his son will be upset. He's been in counseling about the divorce since last November, and if I were him, this would freak me out. It's quite possible...no, probable...that it's none of my business. But, I'm a nosy person and, ya, that's about it. :D
Alanna:o
Emzak 02-09-2006, 08:21 PM Hmm. I don't know what the law is in Cali but I don't see how his ex getting pregnant is sufficient reason for a court to modify either alimony or custody. Now if she remarries, that will probably be enough for you to petition a court to reduce or eliminate alimony. But custody? You'd have to prove a sufficient change in circumstance, like if she was a druggie or alcoholic or abusive. Sorry Lanners. :(
Lanners05 02-09-2006, 08:22 PM You think a hitman will help?
*snicker, snicker*:D
Momma Nessa 02-09-2006, 09:16 PM ok
are they divorced?
is he paying CS or Alimony?
how old is the son?
and lastly i'm going to be 46 last month and except for having my tubes tied I'm perfectly capable of getting pregnant and having a baby.
Lanners05 02-09-2006, 09:37 PM Nessa, they are divorced, he's paying both alimony and child support, and the son is 16.:o
Momma Nessa 02-09-2006, 09:39 PM I don't know about CA either but usually a pregnancy not by the NCP should NOT affect CS or alimony.
if she lives with this man that impregnanted her, i'd file for a modification. if you want the child because she's lviing in sin and presenting a bad moral example then go for it.
Lanners05 02-09-2006, 09:41 PM Well, we're living in sin too, so we won't be much help! :D But na, it's all just weird to me...and it taps into the still immature side of my personality to really care in the first place. I just wanna skrew her to the wall...God knows she's done it to me SO many times. I'll have to tell our story one day when I'm feelin fiesty ;)
Alana:o
Momma Nessa 02-09-2006, 09:45 PM your right about it tapping into the immature side of you.
but sounds like she's not much better...
Lanners05 02-09-2006, 09:52 PM ...or so-crates if you subscribe to the way of Bill and Ted :) He always said "Know thyself" ;) And no, she's no better. The only difference is she's 46 and I'm 25...well...I'm not sure even that's an excuse! Am I suppose to be mature by now! LOL! I'm workin on it ;)
Alanna:o
Momma Nessa 02-09-2006, 09:59 PM my ex-husband's wife called me the other day and i was with some co-workers... she needed to ask me if i would be around this weekend because they are going away and would i be able to help out the oldest kid if he needs me...
we chatted a bit and she offered to help with girl child.... she's a very nice lady.
I hung up and a friend said "who was that" i said... my ex-husband's wife... I really like her.
I wish the whole damn world could get along that well.
chikygrl13 02-10-2006, 03:25 AM Sorry to break it, but Cali law stipulates that he's got to pay alimony untill a court order suspends it. I think if she were to remarry he would still have to pay alimony. I know my Dad was SUPPOSED to pay alimony to my mom. Granted he was supposed to pay child support to! Why couldn't they go after deadbeat dad's 20 years ago!
Actually my Dad is still paying alimony to his 2nd wife (and she's remarried) AND she fenageld him into paying 17 years of child support on a kid that wasn't his!! (my ex stepsister was a year old when they married).
Momma Nessa 02-10-2006, 07:09 AM couple of things here ladies:
1. if there is a court order yes he should abide by it
2. again i dont' know california law but most states when a woman remarries the alimony stops. My father's GF gets alimony but she was marreid over 20 years to a man whom she did the SAHM thing for 4 kids and the rich doctor's wife thing running the home and entertaining etc... and they get along well. She and my dad have lived together for over 8 years and she gets over 5k alimony a month. they don't marry and i'm sure that's part of why... it keeps her independent from my father.
3. a man is required to pay child support (or a woman) to the custodial parent. WHAT that parent does with the money to run the home is their business. the money can go for food, shelter, clothing etc..... of course any other children in the household will benefit from it.
4. oh and while CS is not tax deductable or declarable as income I do believe Alimony is (unless they've changed the laws)
Emzak 02-10-2006, 11:45 AM 4. oh and while CS is not tax deductable or declarable as income I do believe Alimony is (unless they've changed the laws)
Yup, you're right.
Annie 02-10-2006, 02:57 PM This reminds me of a man I used to work for, who had been married several times (it was 4 or 5 times), and I believe that he was paying alimony (or something) to several of them. It was getting VERY expensive for him, so he finally had his lawyer get them all together and agree on a settlement that he could pay out. I'm not sure if that was here or in the US. Can you imagine 5 ex wives all in a room together with their exhusband? :eek:
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