jesique 02-10-2006, 12:50 AM Well...I was told by Emzak that I had to start a thread in this section about our kinky lifestyle.
I would have done it sooner...but i was making dinner and watching Survivor. *grin*
Emzak...I'm not sure what to put!!!
We're kinky...we live a 24/7 D/s relationship. He's the Master...i'm the kitten. That's how it works. It's honestly not really a big deal. We have lots of toys and lots of fun.
We're very subtle about it. We are normal people. We dont dress in black leather...I'm still a very independant woman, I make a lot of decisions on my own...he treats me like an equal in many instances.
I don't wear a collar...but I do wear a silver anklet (from James Avery...my FAV jeweler...look him up...jamesavery.com) that symbolizes his "ownership" of me.
I don't know...does that explain anything? Did I just confuse the hell out of people? Did I overshare? *grin* Probably.
Yall's turn...any kinky ones out there???
Nadine.
chikygrl13 02-10-2006, 03:18 AM Wow! well to each his own!
But on a personal level, I won't let my father walk me down the isle because
I AM NOT PROPERTY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I AM NOT TO BE BOUGHT!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I AM NOT TO BE SOLD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
and I will be DAMNED if any man is gonna have "ownership" of me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
We were all delt a HORRIBLE blow with the recent passing of my Hero Betty Friedan!! Seriously, if you haven't go read the Feminine Mystique!
Sorry, no offense to the rest of you! Domination is a valid lifestyle choice! It's just not for me!!
And though I may be a feminist, NO! I am NOT a lesbian!!!
But I will say that the great thing about being involved with an older man, is that he doesn't feel threatened by my ambition or my success!!!
Momma Nessa 02-10-2006, 07:03 AM hey guys here's the kink in our house... I'm the TOP..... or the DOMME
bri much prefers to be the sub. but i refuse to allow it full time as i"m more of a switch. We have a domme too. she's a great friend of ours.
and NO it does not extend to the rest of our life only in the bedroom.
which is ummm another permeation of the lifestyle.
of course im also a nudist
and bri and i are swingers.... too.
bri tried to dom a woman he knew before me becaause it was what she wanted. she was heavily into BDSM and she wanted him to "be dominant and kinky" or she was leaving. Anyone in the lifestyle who knows my DH knows he's not a DOM LOL.... he collared her with a necklace but his heart was not in it.
Emzak 02-10-2006, 09:17 AM We're kinky...we live a 24/7 D/s relationship. He's the Master...i'm the kitten. That's how it works. It's honestly not really a big deal. We have lots of toys and lots of fun.
That's wild! I've always found D/s intriguing but Hubby is too much of a puppy to try it. :D
jesique 02-10-2006, 09:49 AM Wow...thanks yall!
It's not only nice to hear that I'm not the only one...but it's nice that yall didn't freak out.
I've told people and they either freak out...or they're ok with it.
My last relationship with a Dom was strict...we're talking about a man who wouldn't press the submit button on the computer for fear of looking like someone was telling him what to do. *gag*
We're definately not that strict. *grin*
Mouse...I'm soooo glad you liked the James Avery link. I LOVE their stuff. In fact...the ring I want for when that time comes is from there. :D
So anyways...now that I'm outed...if yall have any questions...feel free to ask. lol.
Nadine.
Momma Nessa 02-10-2006, 10:18 AM ok as long as we are outting ourselves
some of you know
i'm bi too.
Some Dude 02-10-2006, 10:27 AM Great, now my hose is kinked.
http://www.dixielandmarine.com/DLimages/DLkhose.jpg
I think a mild D/S is ok, but it can get disrespectful real fast.
Momma Nessa 02-10-2006, 10:54 AM if done properly the sub really has a lot of power....
Emzak 02-10-2006, 11:17 AM Ok so how exactly does the whole thing work in real life? I've only read about it in stories. :D
mrleigh0764 02-10-2006, 01:32 PM Well smack me up side the head when i read this post. On second thought don't. You might think I was the sub! :rolleyes: I think that if both people are enjoying that life style and it works for them, by all means bring out the toys and let the fun begin. Life is too short not to enjoy all there is with that special loved one in your life and who cares what anyone else thinks. It's theirs to deal with not yours.
Annie 02-10-2006, 01:51 PM Cool Nadine - you're a crazy girl! I'm glad we have this place we can go to and feel comfortable about posting stuff like this.
I have to say that I'm pretty boring :p , but my BF thinks I'm wild. I can't imagine how boring his ex's must have been.
The D/S discussion reminds me a bit of what I had to try to explain to my BF when we got together. I am a very strong independent woman, and have strong ambitions etc, but when it comes to relationships I really need a strong man. My BF just couldn't wrap his head around this and didn't know what I wanted but I think he's finally figuring it out.
skibunny 02-10-2006, 01:54 PM Cool Nadine - you're a crazy girl! I'm glad we have this place we can go to and feel comfortable about posting stuff like this.
I have to say that I'm pretty boring :p , but my BF thinks I'm wild. I can't imagine how boring his ex's must have been.
The D/S discussion reminds me a bit of what I had to try to explain to my BF when we got together. I am a very strong independent woman, and have strong ambitions etc, but when it comes to relationships I really need a strong man. My BF just couldn't wrap his head around this and didn't know what I wanted but I think he's finally figuring it out.
I wouldn't say our sex life is boring, but it's pretty normal... when we have time... but we don't use anything besides both of our bodies.
I have never had sex, though, without experiencing a blow-your-mind orgasm, which I'm told is not always the case, so that makes me happy.
The last time I came close to using a toy, Rosie stuck 2 sisters in a wall socket:eek: - KAPLEWIE! She wasn't any good for a week :( and I had to reset the breaker:mad: .
I have since had to esplainitoher that blowing my socks off is not an electrical event. :rolleyes: And when she lights me up like that the car door is going to seem like disneyland. Damn bitch.
chikygrl13 02-10-2006, 04:06 PM I tried to tie up an ex once, he tried to tie me up, just didn't take. either way.
Feminist that I am, I still belive that relationships need to be 50/50. I can't imagine being the dominant one all the time and I can't imagine being submissive (at all!) And I can't imagine Shane being submissive at all. I am very career oriented, and Shane is very domestic, which is good, cause I make more money than he does and he likes to cook!!! (and clean)
Shane and I are very tradtional in the bedroom (no not just missionary). Actually let me rephrase that Shane is all about me and my needs in the bedroom. He says he's just being "contientous" when he makes sure that I'm satisfied first. But I never had a boyfriend who cared before. Guys my age are all about me me me and how much "poontang" can I get. It's so nice to have a mature and experianced man!
Annie 02-10-2006, 06:19 PM LOL Chiky!
Yep, my guy spoils me rotten in the bedroom, well, actually all the time. It's funny though, sometimes I get the feeling that he enjoys my orgasms more than I do.
christina923 02-10-2006, 07:32 PM salt...you best get that bitch in line!!
ok, i'm with emzak... more nadine
jesique 02-11-2006, 01:37 AM Ok so how exactly does the whole thing work in real life? I've only read about it in stories. :D
More, eh? Hmmm...I'm not sure what to tell ya.
How does it work in real life? Easily.
He's the Master...and I'm the submissive. We're very relaxed in our day to day life...although I do everything in my power to make sure he has everything he needs or wants. That doesn't mean he's a lazy bum...he cooks and does dishes...and does things for me too.
During the day I call him lots of pet names...in public I call him Alec or hun...love...beautiful...and him me. In bed I usually call him Master. I am available to him anytime he wishes to use me. That doesn't mean that I don't initiate sex.
It's so hard for me to explain this...cuz to me it's very normal...we're normal folks...I don't want to scare yall away and make you think we're some kinky bastards.
Like I think it was Nessa said...the sub has a lot of power too. Basically I almost have more power in this relationship...because I choose to give myself to him. Without that consent...he has nothing.
Give me some questions to answer and I'll do better...I promise. *grin*
Nadine.
Some Dude 02-11-2006, 08:05 AM So you love the movie "secretary" huh?
Emzak 02-11-2006, 09:32 AM It's so hard for me to explain this...cuz to me it's very normal...we're normal folks...I don't want to scare yall away and make you think we're some kinky bastards.
No, no scare! I like it! :D
skibunny 02-11-2006, 09:35 AM I'm scared... but I am narrow-minded and live in a bubble. :p
Momma Nessa 02-11-2006, 10:37 AM we're normal folks too....
that being said where is my cat o nine tails.....
jesique 02-11-2006, 09:41 PM So you love the movie "secretary" huh?
Actually...I absolutely LOVE that movie! I went to an S&M party once dressed as a secretary...spreader bar and all!
Not to mention how incredably sexy James Spader is as a Dominant male in the movie....oh man...mmmmmmmm.
Nadine.
wtiger2 03-26-2006, 10:26 AM Sticks and Stones may break my bones, but WHIPS & CHAINS EXCITE ME!! :-)
My sweetie and I have a D/s relationship. She wears collars when we go out together, and she's my Love Slave. :-) And she LOVES when I spank her bum! We'll do the bondage eventually when we get together, she loves images I've emailed her of female bondage, and sex in bondage :-)
jesique 03-27-2006, 10:19 AM Mmmm...spankings.
Hiya wtiger2...nice to see some other "kinky" people in here! :D
Nadine.
lol...Alec always says..."whip me, beat me, make me write bad checks." *grin*
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