Im in a funk!

So I have been in a depressed mood for the past few days and its getting worse tonight.

I keep thinking to myself that I am going to eventually be one of those old and lonely women who has like 200 cats living in her house! I am not kidding..

Am I ever going to find another boyfriend? Will I be alone for the rest of my life? Will I ever be able to trust another man? Will I ever be happy? Will I ever feel worthy of a mans love?

Im sorry if this thread makes no sense......Im just lost.

Oh amanda,

a) you are young. You have plenty of time, don't worry YET!

b) you are cute. Another reason not to worry!

c) You just got mixed up in a BAD situation that you TOTALLY didn't deserve and it will probably give you a few trust issues in the future--- but just because you wound up with some messed up dude once, doesn't mean you'll never find a good one!

Sorry to hear you're feeling down. (((((HUGS)))))

When I broke up with my ex, I felt really bummed out too. It's tough, especially when the break-up is caused by lies and deception. You feel like someone has just pulled a rug from underneath you and you're completely lost and disoriented.

Time does heal everything. The only problem is what the heck do you do in the mean time??? For me, I found that distracting myself works well. Go out with friends, pamper yourself, do stuff that you normally wouldn't do. Pick up a new hobby! Is there anything you've always wanted to do but just hasn't gotten around to it? DO IT. Maybe save up some money and go on a nice vacation somewhere by yourself. It's very liberating!

Don't worry. We'll hold your hand through it all. :)

(((((((amandam)))))))

I wish I had some comforting words for you - I'm in a funk too so I am at a loss of words. I don't know your story, but I do know that time does heal wounds. And you will find love and happiness again, and if you get a few cats along the way, that's okay - I know I will ;) . Break up's suck. In the meantime, like Em said, we are here for you and we will get through this together.

I don't know your story, but

A condensed version of Amanda's story, as I remember it.

Amanda dated an older man for 2 years.
He broke up with her a couple months ago, citing inacceptance from family as the reason.

Amanda gets a call from a woman.
Turns out her boyfriend had been dating this other woman the whole time she and her boyfriend were together... and when he dumped her... it was because the other girlfriend gave birth to his baby.


A CRAPPY situation that no one deserves!

:eek: :( Wow Amandam, I'm so sorry! big, tight hug for you. That is horrible. I imagine that you will have some pretty serious trust issues for a while - we will help you work through them when you are ready. Wow, what an ass, I'm speechless.

((((((((((((((hug))))))))))))))))

Momma Nessa here.....


yes YOU will move on
yes you will find someone... but FIRST you have to love yourself.



if what i read is true what he did was stinky and crappy and inexcusable but it's NOT personal and it's not about you.

NO relationships are.

have you done healing work?

Read the book A FINE ROMANCE by Judith Sill.

but it's NOT personal and it's not about you.

So true. It is all about his dysfunctional self. And Amandam, always keep in mind that that's exactly what it was - he was probably a dysfunctional, unhealthy person and his behavior was in no way a reflection of whether or not you are worthy of love. You absolutely deserve and will find love!!! Yes, the love of another man, but first and most of all, like nessa said, love of yourself.

Hang in there.

Thank you so much everyone for your support! It really means a lot to me.

And what Skibunny said was pretty much what happened for those who dont know the whole story.

I have good days and bad days and yesterday and today have been bad days.

I have just completely lost my self-esteem over all this crap and its not fair! I didnt do anything wrong in the relationship and I was the one who got hurt in the end.:(

Sweetie... just remind yourself.. YOU didn't do anything wrong. YOU are going to be A-OK. Nobody with your beauty, intelligence, and super fantastic outlook on life is going to be alone and unloved for more than... two blinks. :eek:

Smile, cuz its beautiful and the world smiles with you. And in a couple years, I PROMISE, you'll look back and thank him for setting you free on your path to become the best you that you can be.. because while today might suck, tomorrow is a new day and a new outlook, if you choose it.

Sendin' ya ((((HUGS)))))
~phos

AMANDA!!!

Girl you know I luv ya....I'm sorry you're feeling blue.

((((((HUGE HUGS))))))

Nadine.

Hang in there girl! ;)