are we in this for money or for sex?

Shane said this morning that he was looking on line for older man/younger woman relationships. And apparently the general consensus is that us younger women are only after older men for their money and our older men only want our younger bodies.
Thoughts? Concerns? Opinions?
you've seen my pic, so you KNOW he ain't after my body!
and if I'm only after his money, than I'm in serious trouble (I make more!)

Ditto. The man I want don't have the looks and he doesn't have money. I just plain ol love him.

oh hell yeah brian's my younger man it's all about my money (i have none) and sex (we have none) and my hot hot body... ummm NOT

Nahhh, I don't agree with that article 100%.

I wasn't after him for money. But, yeah, we were both sexually attracted to one another. Key word: both. That was not the glue that held us together though--despite our age difference we were very compatible and enjoyed being together. I'm not ruling the sex part out--I think that's a big driving force for most men to pursue any relationship.

And for cryin' out loud...stop putting yourselves down, ladies!

well... my boyfriend has NO money.

And I sure as heck don't have a hot body... and he's been too busy to think about sex, so his relationship with me doesnt seem motivated by that...

Welll....like everyone else...Alec has no money...and I don't have that hot of a bod....so I'm pretty sure it's something else that we're looking for! :D

Nadine.

PS. Although...can I be in it for Alec's hot bod? Cuz I totally am!

Niether! I'm in this for the dirty looks and nasty digs from "society". :D

hmm when i met Eric i had not even seen him,just knew he was in the USCG but had no idea of what his salary was,i still dont know and wont dare to ask...of course he did not fell for my body either cause not that i look exactly as a model. :p

i think love is based in attraction, common interests and compatible characters, if he just looks for sex and she just looks for money,and they both get what they want,it is a good business,but not love :)

I do think that a lot of society assumes that is what our relationships are all about -- since they aren't the "norm" I guess it has to be something huh? Go for the easiest answer??

I know in my relationship, I can say undoubtedly that the money isn't an issue. I've been with older men who had nothing and older men who had more. I wouldn't be with a guy if he wasn't responsible and couldn't take care of himself, but as far as wanting a bunch of money -- I could care less.

The physical part of our relationship is very important and like one of the other posters said, I think the sexual attraction part is very important to any guy in starting a relationship. I know it was for my boyfriend. However, I know for a FACT that we wouldn't have made it this far if there hadn't been a foundation of something much more there.

I worry when his daughters finally find out about me and meet me, that they will assume I am with him for his money/stability and that they will just think I never had it on my own (even though I do). I guess maybe I should give them more credit, but it seems like most people do make those assumptions -- atleast the ones I have run into, and the articles I've seen, etc...

Okay, apparently I need to clarify the sex issue. Of course there has to be somekind of physical attraction! That's just chemestry and pharamones and human nature. But not all of us out there are the sterotypically playboy bunny arm candy that some people expect to find with older men.
In other words, we're not all like Anna Nichole Smith!

I think it's so frustrating that people automatically assume you must be attracted to someone just because of money or sex. Often, neither of the people in the relationship even have much money. I wish more people would stop dismissing our relationships just because there's an age gap. An age gap doesn't mean "he must like sex with a younger girl" or "she must like his security". We're in love, just like many other couples who may have no age gaps or be of the same sex. Does it really matter in the end? In a country where fifty percent of all marriages end badly, shouldn't you take love and cherish it when you do find it?

Would it be fair to say that someone in an AGR solely for sex or money, probably not take interest in a website such as this?

welp im unemployed for now, ron is pretty well off/attractive guy. im young, in shape he says i have a hot body lol.. i think im "ok" could stand to lose a few pounds.
but just from the info ive shared with you and some close friends of course they have reached the same conclusion, its the money and sex. welp i guess if i really wanted him for just that i wouldntve waited as long as i did to date him. (we've been friends for 4 yrs) we've only been dating for a little over a year now. he pursued me, i was more concerned that we would ruin our friendship if something bad were to happen once we started dating. i could care less about the $, but i must say the sex is pretty dam good lol so maybe that is it..:p

Would it be fair to say that someone in an AGR solely for sex or money, probably not take interest in a website such as this?

actually that's probably a safe bet!! They'd be more interested in websites titled "how to kill my rich hubby and make it look like an accident!"

They'd be more interested in websites titled "how to kill my rich hubby and make it look like an accident!"


Lol...Chiky! You are so funny :D

but i must say the sex is pretty dam good lol so maybe that is it

Jinx...maybe this article should be reversed? Maybe the men are after our money, and we're after their sweet lovin'...:D YESSS :D

Maybe the men are after our money, and we're after their sweet lovin'...:D YESSS :D

I think every older man must have read [I]She Comes First[I] by Ian Kerner!!
Cause it certainly seems that way from where I'm laying!!!!!!!!!

Well, if Litical is in this for the money, he's probably bummin' now, as I just indebted myself yet again fixin' my stupid (but awesome) car. :eek: LOL. And I'm not after HIM for money.. but damn he does have a hot bod. But you know what? That's not what its all about. He was a bit overweight when I met him and he's a bit underweight now... but he could be anything and I wouldn't care. I fell in love with HIM.

Now, I know he ain't in it for either money or my hot bod, so it must be love. :D

~phos

Money???

R T F L M F A O!!!!!!!! That's freaking hilarious. If I was after money, I sure wouldn't have ended up with someone with an ex-wife, 2 kids, and the amount of debt that he has. :rolleyes:

BTW, I think money is EVIL.

Now the body thing - hmmm, well I'm not even going to lie and say that I didn't have a hot little body when G and I got together, but bodies sure do change and mine is not the same as it was when I was
21, and I seriously doubt that we would have stayed together for 6 years if all he was after was my body.

Plus, I know A LOT of women who are G's age who have a MUCH hotter body than I do, so I just don't get that logic. :rolleyes:

Well, I know my OM isnt after a hot body, either that or his perceptiong is WAY off the norm. I'm built just like my daddy, if I'd have been a boy I would have been a GREAT linebacker. I REALLY like his body though :)

As for the money thing, I must not be too good at getting what I want if thats what I was after. If I wanted money, I sure wouldnt have gone after a guy who has given away more than half his stuff in 3 divorces. We are currently renting what used to be a 2 car garage and are paying off debts his last wife created without his knowledge.

It must just be that love thing. Money and looks arent really there for us, but I think we get pretty much everything else from our a relationship that people in a normal relationship get and then some. I know I wanted to marry my best friend, I didnt care about money. I dont think anyone here would. To take the time to talk about a relationship and try to get/give feedback and support means you almost have to have some respect and/or emotional investment in your relationship. I just dont see that in couples who are just in it for sex and money.

Well, I know my OM isnt after a hot body, either that or his perceptiong is WAY off the norm. I'm built just like my daddy, if I'd have been a boy I would have been a GREAT linebacker. I REALLY like his body though :)

As for the money thing, I must not be too good at getting what I want if thats what I was after. If I wanted money, I sure wouldnt have gone after a guy who has given away more than half his stuff in 3 divorces. We are currently renting what used to be a 2 car garage and are paying off debts his last wife created without his knowledge.

It must just be that love thing. Money and looks arent really there for us, but I think we get pretty much everything else from our a relationship that people in a normal relationship get and then some. I know I wanted to marry my best friend, I didnt care about money. I dont think anyone here would. To take the time to talk about a relationship and try to get/give feedback and support means you almost have to have some respect and/or emotional investment in your relationship. I just dont see that in couples who are just in it for sex and money.
I agree...my OM...with an ex and 2 kids, isn't loaded like everyone thinks. I got really pissed when one of my friend's husbands said "well, its the money, right? I mean, that can't be bad."
And honestly, money has NOTHING to do with it! I hate money! It sucks! He gives all of it away to his freaking ex!!! I mean, it would be nice if we were "comfortible" but we aren't even that!!

Now, the sex is awesome...but...I'm definitely not staying FOR that. Its just a bonus. :o

lj