Do you trust your intuition

IF your DH/SO is telling you things like 'oh no that phone call I went outside to take was NOT my mistress' or 'well yeah I made a mistake and sent that 'meet me tonite' text message to you it should have gone to 'my boss'

do you trust him or do you trust your gut.


I knew in my gut brian was playing me. He was lying. but he said NO. and I asked him and I told him it was ok... (we were dating not even living together) and yet he still LIED TO ME. BUT DEEP in my heart I knew.


later on he confirmed i was RIGHT... YES YES YES I was.

so do you trust your gut?

Yes Nessa!!! YESSSSS!!

This kind of thing has happened many times to me....

For example: An ex boyfriend of mine had a "friend" in the neighborhood that he was hanging out with during one summer we were living apart (but still together). I just had a feeling that something happened. Something wasn't right. I kept asking him "Did something happen between you two?" "NO! NOTHING HAPPENED!!! WHY DON'T YOU TRUST ME??" I felt terrible but I couldn't shake the feeling that I had in my gut.

TURNS OUT I WAS RIGHT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I knew I was, but I had no proof and no choice but to just let it go.

And the list goes on and on...

NEVER underestimate a woman's intuition.

I always trust my intuition - but I don't always ACT on it. There have been times that I knew it was right, but I didn't do anything about it. http://www.clicksmilies.com/s0105/traurig/sad-smiley-066.gif

me too Moon. me too...


but as you learn to trust your self maybe later on it will help you to take the action you know you should

i think it's human nature to want to see the good in people.

but as you learn to trust your self maybe later on it will help you to take the action you know you should

I also think seeing the (sometimes) devastating results of not acting on intuition also helps.

absolutely!!! one just KNOWS! i knew first husband was cheating, but i tried to bury it. funny looking back on it, the first day i met her, before they even began their affair( yes, it started as a foursome friendship) for a split second i knew. felt it in my gut what was gonna go down, then got the "message" , watch this woman she is trouble...the rest is history

so i have to be very aware...if i get the gut first, then the message its "real"...or if its just my insecurities and the message comes first followed by gut then i ignore

Yes, yes! My intuition is usually what triggers my snoop activator, which then leads me to the smoking gun 9 out of 10 times. Very reliable. :D

Oh yeh....all the time. I'm really picky about the guys I date. It happeneds all the time when my friends are dating someone else...so many stories...

One story was my best friend was dating this guy that I knew about, but for some reason...I didn't trust him. We double dated and I still didn't trust him...turns out later, he cheated on her.

NO doubt about it. I trust my instinct and I have long since learned to follow it. I knew my first husband was about to cheat... and I knew when I met her WHO he was about to cheat with ~ I could read it on both of them like they were an open book. It was ludicrous listening to the denials. :rolleyes: I laugh about it now.

And many, many times before that I went through similar things that always turned out the way I knew them going... like watching a car wreck in slow motion. :eek:

These last few years, I trust my GUT, plain and simple and if others don't like it... tough shit. I just KNOW. Some things/people/places are trainwrecks waiting to happen and its my job to do everything to get the HELL out of the way and preserve my "self." I do not hesitate to do so anymore.

~phos

Yes, yes! My intuition is usually what triggers my snoop activator, which then leads me to the smoking gun 9 out of 10 times. Very reliable. :D
Me too!!! I always always used to snoop when I didn't trust my ex from a few years ago. 9 times out of 10, I'd find something I really didn't want to.

But with my OM now, who has a MAJOR past, and she still calls and shows up occasionally, I CAN'T snoop. It just hurts too bad. I used to go through his phone, to see who he'd been calling and who had been calling him, and I just cannot do that anymore. Ignorance is bliss. I'd really just rather not know.

Now if I think he's cheating, I'd definitely be looking, but I know that's not happening. One ex and one demanding girlfriend is plenty o' women for my man!!

But to the topic, I ALWAYS trust my intuition and it is usually ALWAYS right. When I know something ain't right, and it just doesn't feel right, I KNOW. And I find out right away.

Womens intuition is a powerful thing..!!
lj

I have always gone with my gut feelings. I had this husband once......:rolleyes:

When he was home he would go outside to take all his phone calls, his office phone bill was in the $500's, his schedule changed, he was up and out of the house by 6am.. for breakfast meetings:eek: but what really clued me in.. I knew at that very moment...

We ( he and I ) were at a Political Rally for a high ranking official (my husband was her campaign manager) he didnt miss a beat while talking to her and I.. just reached into her purse and helped himself to one of her cigs. :mad: Gotta love politics.:eek:

You know....when I first saw this thread I thought...

Oh heck yes...I always follow my gut feelings.

I do have good intuition...and in a situation like the scenario I would definately go into snoop mode and figure out what was going on.

But my intuition told me to leave my EX so many times...and I didn't. I don't know why.

Nadine.

yeah! I trust my intuition. Granted it gets me into trouble more often than not... with my last ex, I knew from the begining that he was only intersted in sex, and yet I still let him hurt me, not once, but TWICE!!! That was just bad bad bad...
Now, I can't explain it, I just KNOW, I instictivly know that I'm going to have Shane's child. I don't know if we'll get married (though I'm pretty sure we will!) but I do KNOW that someday I'm going to have his baby. NO!!! I'm not pregnant yet (THANK GOD!!!!!!!!) but my gut, my intuition, my 6th sense tells me that I will!
And it scares me!

You know....when I first saw this thread I thought...

Oh heck yes...I always follow my gut feelings.

I do have good intuition...and in a situation like the scenario I would definately go into snoop mode and figure out what was going on.

But my intuition told me to leave my EX so many times...and I didn't. I don't know why.

Nadine.

you didn't listen to youself because you want to see the good in people.

you didn't listen to youself because you want to see the good in people.

Talk about hitting that one on the head....I really do want to and try to see the good in people. *smile*

I think part of it too was that everytime I tried to leave...he would sweetalk me into staying. And I let him.

Nadine.

I'm learning to trust my instinct and let myself go with it. In my previous relationship, I kept thinking he was cheating on me, but rationalized everything away...things like his telling me he'd call me after rehearsal and then he didn't and I went over to his place and he was there, but told me he "just got home." Or like how my toothbrush at his place suddenly seemed to always be hidden whenever I came over. And other such things along that line. I ignored my gut and I wish I had gone with it. Instead, I let him make me feel like a clingy, paranoid, idiot.

Now I trust my gut. It tells me my current boyfriend (the older man in the relationship) is not like that at all.

~Crysania

In my previous relationship, I kept thinking he was cheating on me, but rationalized everything away...things like his telling me he'd call me after rehearsal and then he didn't and I went over to his place and he was there, but told me he "just got home." Or like how my toothbrush at his place suddenly seemed to always be hidden whenever I came over. And other such things along that line. I ignored my gut and I wish I had gone with it. Instead, I let him make me feel like a clingy, paranoid, idiot.

Yeah, I had to learn this lesson the hard way too. :(

Yeah, I had to learn this lesson the hard way too. :(

Sadly, sometimes that's the ONLY way you can learn stuff sometimes. I'm in a much better place now, but I'm more wary than I was before.

~Crysania

Does deleting all your emails off the server count? That's what Bill does. Ugh...I'm sickened by the thought of him in love with someone else and living with me.

Does deleting all your emails off the server count? That's what Bill does. Ugh...I'm sickened by the thought of him in love with someone else and living with me.

Well, the only reason it sounds suspicious to me is because you once told me that Bill is a complete doo-doo when it comes to computers, so I'm amazed that he even knows how to do that.

OMG....good point. Since when was I dumbest person on earth? :(

:eek: Well, maybe he's just like me. Anal about his accounts. I clean mine out daily. And there's nothing in there I should be ashamed about... but damn, I get like 600 spam a day on the work account (maybe 3-4 REAL emails, literally) and on my gmail account, about 40 spam a day and maybe some periodic back and forth emails with friends. THOSE I keep, usually. Just depends. I've reached my limit on email storage space in so many different accounts. It's kind of like cleaning out a PM box, y'know? Although, it could be suspicious.

Does he also delete his "History" in his web browser? Cuz that always IRKS me. I only let mine keep webaddies for 3 days and it auto clears, but when someone does it freaks me out and makes me think they're hiding something from me. :eek:

~phos

I clear my e-mail daily. And I also clear other folders daily......

Reminds me of a scene from the film 'CASINO' -

[mobster says he'll keep records of his expenses]
"No records. What you wanna keep records for? Ya gonna pay taxes or sumptin?" :cool:

I only clean the history when I've looked at something I don't want anyone to know. (ok...porn)

It weirds me out when other people clear it too...lol.

Nadine.

Talk about hitting that one on the head....I really do want to and try to see the good in people. *smile*

I think part of it too was that everytime I tried to leave...he would sweetalk me into staying. And I let him.

Nadine.

The same exact thing happened to me with my ex OM.

I now know to trust my intuition....I think being with him was for that reason.