Friends

This thread may belong more properly in Relationship Support, but here goes. Even though you are in a relationship in which there is a significant age difference between you and your partner, are most of your friends your own age? And are your partner's friends mostly his/her age? If so, does that feel strange sometimes or cause problems?

well I am 27....I'd say all of my close friends are under 35....and they ADORE him....he's 50 -- most of "my" friends are now "our" friends (couples mainly).

His friends are people that he and his wife had in their circle ....I haven't met any of them, and I am sure it would be strange if I did -- probably won't happen -- the 'guys' he plays golf with and stuff.... are all ages...

I have always gotten along with people older than me ...even since I was a kid....I would always talk to the adults instead of the other kids LOL

I think it probably just depends on the two people....

I've always had friends whose ages were all over the place. My closest friends are mainly my age (23ish/24ish) with two who are about 10 years older.

Since I've moved I've made one friend under 30! The rest are mid-thirties - mid forties.

All my "young" friends love my boyfriend. They all made fun before meeting him, then they seemed all ok with it.

He doesn't really keep any friends. He makes them where ever we go, but doesn't really latch on to them.

interesting question...

let's see...

my bestest forever friend is six years older than I am which makes her two years YOUNGER than my MIL.... her husband is six years older than her which makes him my FIL age.

I"m not even sure how old most of my friends are but most are between my age and my husband's age. in fact in our group of friends, i'm the oldest and he's the youngest... they all fall between.

I don't have many friends here in the city. The ones are have adore him and are his friends too, and we all go out together on occasion. He has a lot more friends than I do, through work, 25+ years at the same job that are now my friends because of our relationship. So most often, I spend a lot of my social time with men and women 55 years old plus! But its cool. Gives a younger person like me great perspective and I learn a lot from them!

My friends range from 20 - 65 or so. Always have. As a teener, some of my closest friends lived at my Gram's fellowship house. *shrug* I was weird. LOL.

I consider the guys I've worked for for 10 years my friends. I've known two of them since I was about 13. They are almost more like family. One is 63, the other 57. My two female co-workers are also friends. One is 55, the other is 30.

I've always been an intergenerational kind of person. Was close friends with a 65 year old professor back in college for most of the time I lived down there. Never thought much about it, to be honest.
~phos

I think since we're both in school, and have been in school for a while contributes to our having a lot of the same friends.
He's met most of my outside friends and are now friends with all of them, which is nice. I met his best friend a few months ago (he lives in San Francisco) and we got along, though I think he was a bit shocked at my age!!

My boyfriend is kind of a loner...and doesn't really have any friends. He's much happier on the computer designing something new than in a social situation.

I just moved here....so I don't have a whole bunch of friends...but the ones I do range from about 21 to 28.

Unless you count my volunteer friends...cuz they're all like in their 60s! :D They rock!

My friends who have met Alec all like him and are cool with hanging out with him. My friend Mandy comes to the house all the time and chills with us. *grin*

Nadine.

oooh, my boyfriend does have a few friends who call quite a bit... one who calls ALL the time... who I used to date! I feel really awkward cuz it was a sticky situation, I was sort of seeing both of them at the same time.

So his friend WAS cool with me... and he seems happy for us but I always wonder...

he has a female friend in FL, I havent met her, I think we're gonna see her when we're down there.

all his other friendships last like an hour. We go to a bar, he makes a friend. We go to the gym, he makes a friend. We go to the store, he makes a friend.

We leave, friendship over!

my friends (cuz I have oh so many http://www.clicksmilies.com/s0105/sprachlos/speechless-smiley-034.gif ) are either my age or just a few years older than me.

But I have a lot of aquaintances that are all over the place as far as age goes.

G was the same way. We both know (and at times socialized with) A LOT of people because of our work, but neither of us have a lot of close friends.

My friends' ages are all over the map too. Now that I'm in school, I've met more people my age so the stats are kinda skewed, but the breakdown is 40% around my age (mid to late 20s) and 60% are 40s and up.

im 22 and most of my friends are the same age as me,they're *supportive* of me but think i would be better off dating someone whose my age. Ron is 39, most of his friends are 30 and up. the only time its akward between us is when he starts talking about the past with his friends, brings up things i have no clue about lol.. other than that his friends dont have a problem with me..not that i know of.

we made new friends after we became a couple... now they are our friends

oooh, my boyfriend does have a few friends who call quite a bit... one who calls ALL the time... who I used to date! I feel really awkward cuz it was a sticky situation, I was sort of seeing both of them at the same time.

So his friend WAS cool with me... and he seems happy for us but I always wonder...

he has a female friend in FL, I havent met her, I think we're gonna see her when we're down there.

all his other friendships last like an hour. We go to a bar, he makes a friend. We go to the gym, he makes a friend. We go to the store, he makes a friend.

We leave, friendship over!


My boyfriend does the same thing. He talks to people wherever we go, and is always extra friendly. :) My boyfriend also acts "young" and by that I don't mean "immature". But he doesn't take life too seriously, and I like that.

This was a big problem for me during my AGR.

We had a hard time bringing our "worlds" together. At best, we socialized with mutual friends from work but we still felt limited. His friends were all around his age (40+), mine (20+). On top of it, his friends all had families and completely different priorities--different even for him. There really wasn't any common ground to bring those two groups together in our situation. We never found a solution to this.

I have 3 really good friends. Two are females (both 24) and one is male (26). My Sweetie has friends all over 30. Neither our friends have ever have issues on the subject and have supported us in our decision. Then again, my friends always thought I was a lot mature for someone of my age (I had a very short childhood). The experinces that I have gone through have made me a wiser person so my friends have always viewed me as an old soul in a young body. The only "friends" I have lost are the ones that no longer talk to me after they found out how old my SO was and only call when they need something.

Almost all my friends are younger than me. They get along great with alanna and actully enjoy their "old man" of the group getting some younger stuff lmao