Poll---is not making a decision a form of decision making?

i was being snarky i deleted it.

Why?? I was totally gonna vote YES!

I used to be soooooo scared of making decisions, esp. big ones, until I realized that for every day I do NOT decide, I'm ACTUALLY making one anyway--to stay put. Then I thought to myself, well if a decision ALWAYS gets made regardless of what I do (or not do), then I'd much rather ACTIVELY choose a path--whatever it is--as opposed to settling for the default option.

I have this great book called WHAT DO I DO NOW? by Charles Foster and it's all about how to make good decisions. That book has saved my butt quite a few times!

Not making a decision definitely IS a decision to let others make them for you so you can blame them and be nasty towards them later. :rolleyes: Lived with one of them for a LONG time and find them intolerable miserable people by choice. I choose not to associate with people who behave in this manner. Either shit or get off the pot.

I'm REALLY glad Litical and I found each other, because neither one of us is indecisive and neither one of us is unwilling to take charge and make decisions that need to be made. It's a trade off... he'll say to me, "What do you want to do here" and I'll say, "I don't care! Just do something!" And he'll do it and I've got no right to complain. Or it will be the opposite... so long as we're moving forward, everything is good.

~phos

so is it passive agressive or is it wishy washy or is it that you really odn't care....

or what?

I think it's fear. At least in my case.

I used to think that as long as I delay making a decision, there's no way I can choose the wrong one.

Boy was I wrong! I learned the hard way. :(

My Memaw (grandmother) and my mother still tell me to this day that they couldn't take me in a store when I was younger and ask me to get a snack. They swear that it never ended good! They always had to choose for me and I was drug kicking and screaming out of the store...and to think they doubted I was ADD?

Anyways, yes, I believe no decision is actually a decision in its own right. I've always belived that if you stand for nothing, you'll fall for anything...and in the same right if you don't choose, you've already chosen. I believe everything in life is a choice. Love is a choice, fidelity is a choice, destiny is a choice, and I don't believe in fate. I believe what you give this world will come back to you. Okay.. *hops off her soapbox* enough of dat!

Alanna:o

I've always belived that if you stand for nothing, you'll fall for anything...and in the same right if you don't choose, you've already chosen. I believe everything in life is a choice. Love is a choice, fidelity is a choice, destiny is a choice, and I don't believe in fate. I believe what you give this world will come back to you. Okay.. *hops off her soapbox* enough of dat!

That was actually very inspiring. Thanks! :)

LOL lanners....

Your meemaw story reminded me of a story about myself....

My nick name is mimi but all my daughters friends call me mima

Part Mimi and part mom....I always get a smile from that one...


:D

Phos...were we with the same guy? My first ex insisted that not making a decision was just that...not making a decision. So he'd sit there and not get anything done because then he wouldn't be wrong. :eek: The guy drove me nuts at times.....errrr..most of the time.