I'm an effing idiot

!

how about i just hug you since you seem to know what you need to do and why?

sometimes one just needs a reminder why they left to begin with..

*H*

And sometimes we're just not READY to leave a bad situation... ((((HUGS)))) I kept trying to convince myself for years that my last husband would change, that somehow we could MAKE a bad thing work ~ and I knew he was an asshole and our relationship SUCKED and I still stuck it out for 4 years too long. FOUR YEARS! *flush*

We all do things that we know aren't right for us until we figure out what it is that IS right. You will make up your mind when YOU are ready. In the interim, there are people who care about you ~ so if he's pissin' ya off, come vent all you need right here and don't feel bad about doing so... That's what we're FOR. :D

~phos

sometimes it is just easier stay in a conflitive situation cause we think it hurts less than the inital effort (and pain) of facing it. (sounds messy in english...not sure if you know what i mean).

being conscious of how things are is the first step,you know what you have to do,and you are strong enough to make it,just need a little more confidence to take the next step.Go ahead :)

big hugs for you :)

María

Don't feel so bad. Sometimes it takes several tries to REALLY break things off. When my ex and I split up (my choice), I somehow still ended up hanging on for another miserable four months. Maybe you just needed a good reminder as to WHY you dumped him in the first place. When you get lonely, it's easy to just remember the good times but that is so NOT an accurate picture of how the relationship really was.

((((((HUGS))))))

it took me 3 years on and off to get out of a really bad abusive marraige.

you do what you can when you can and don't beat yourself up.

Lose the zero and get with a hero.

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I agree with what the others have said. Sometimes it feels like negative attention is better than none. And sometimes it takes going back to remember that it's not healthy or not what you want.
But you know what you need to do. And if you need help doing it, we are here for you.

But when my sister's ex was stalking her, broke into her apartment, vandalized our house, stole her kids' bikes and tried to kidnap my sister, he almost thought it was funny. It was like a joke to him, and now that his kid is going through something similar I'm supposed to give a shit? http://www.clicksmilies.com/s0105/aktion/action-smiley-049.gif

Awwww....man. We told ya not to call him! :p I hear ya though. Its hard NOT to call. I've broken down and "made the phone call" before! DAMN that sucks ass. Dump him again, and then pull the phone out of the wall.

I did the same thing w/my Ex...I would say I wasn't going to call then...BOOm..I would break down...then I'd be so angry w/myself afterwards:rolleyes:
It can be tough
(((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))
Hang in there girl, Everything will work out!

Girl...don't beat yourself up over it...it's human nature.

I did the same exact thing...took me forever to finally break up with my stupid Ex.

((((((((HUGS)))))))))

You just do what you need to do and keep coming here and we'll help ya the best we can. *grin*

Nadine.