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Hi :o

I'm Nat, I'm 20, I'm from Lancashire in the UK! :D My partner of two years, Ian, is 47 and lives in lincolnshire, I'm moving in with him, like, now! He's 27 yrs older but i think i'm the grown up of the relationship! he says 'AG relationships do work, we've been together two years and been through everything' and i say ":rolleyes: two years is nothing and we havent even spent more than two weeks together at a time, let alone been married, had kids, had a serious illness to deal with etc etc"

I love horses and chickens and dogs and cows and sheep and pigs! I have 10 rats, 9 guineapigs and 30 chickens - i'd like to get a dog when i move in with ian. I also like reaidng and writing aswell and drawing and music - i play the fiddle.

I'm here to glean what i can from others, particularly about 'the latter stages' of AG relationships, how they end and why and can it be avoided! I do worry about me being 43 and ian being 70 :( having kids - they wont have their dad for long and it'll be my fault because i chose to have kids with a much older man. Or I'll end up resenting ian because i have to look after him 24/7. and one day he'll die and i'll be left all on my own before i even draw a pension :(

Thanks for reading!

Hi Nat, welcome to MTaG. I'm sure you'll find this place a great resource.

Many people here have similar worries to yours and it's a good forum to discuss these issues.

How did you and Ian meet? What kind of reaction have you gotten from family and friends?

PS. I'm also in the UK and have 4 rat does. :)

Welcome Nat!! This is the place to come to glean:D

As for worrying about 30 years from now? Why bother. Enjoy now, now instead of worrying now about later.

~Jenna

cant help worrying - i'm a virgo! :D but thanks!

I met ian through a friend at uni, she had met him via ebay and had the odd drink with him. I spotted his pic on her computer and made a mental note....then we got talking on msn, then we spoke on the phone, then we met and immediately got together! was very quick!

Hello

Natters, I'm a Virgo too! And I know EXACTLY why you have to worry about 30 years from now. :D

The best thing to do to ease up on the anxiety is just to talk about them. I used to be obsessed--and I mean OBSESSED--with my hubby and I having kids, hubby dying, etc., and now, four years later, I can honestly say I rarely think about it.

As a point of reference, I am 29 and hubby is 50. :)

i didnt think i'd be alone!

My thoughts always end with 'well, what are you gunna do - dump him?' and i cant, so i guess eventually i'll get over it and get on with it too!

Hi Natter's,

Welcome to MTaG. We have some connection/coincidences.
First, I love the name Natalie. My avatar is my new Granddaughter, Natalie. Her maternal Grandma lives in UK. She's an American studies teacher at a University (in?) near London.
My husband is 70, and I'm 46. I was in my 20's, he 50 when we married.

We do have unique challenges in AG relationships, but can't obsess on them as others have already told you. We've made it 20 years so far, and all of our friends and family now admit to us that they never believed we'd make it past 2 or 3 years.

You might want to check out the thread titled "babies" for other insights. There are so many other helpful threads here.

Again, Welcome.

hello to the other natalie - its a popular name for my generation!

20 years!? phew!!! I'll tell ian! dont know if he'll survive another 20 years! :D

hee welcome natters! virgo or not, Don't worry too much (some worries are okee though!) I am scales - libra - & hesistating is my middle name, so i found here a very nice bunch of people who DO support you in not too much worring, & whom I want to support also I hope you'll feel as happy as I do here!
Ciao,
Genie

"9 guineapigs" :eek: I LOVE guinea pigs!!! I had them too (they died :() They are SO funny! & lovely & SMART! I love the way they mumble away their food. heheheh

Hi Natter's,

Welcome to MTaG. We have some connection/coincidences.
First, I love the name Natalie. My avatar is my new Granddaughter, Natalie. Her maternal Grandma lives in UK. She's an American studies teacher at a University (in?) near London.
My husband is 70, and I'm 46. I was in my 20's, he 50 when we married.

We do have unique challenges in AG relationships, but can't obsess on them as others have already told you. We've made it 20 years so far, and all of our friends and family now admit to us that they never believed we'd make it past 2 or 3 years.

You might want to check out the thread titled "babies" for other insights. There are so many other helpful threads here.

Again, Welcome.

Overhill, your story takes my worries away as well... thnx!
"My husband is 70, and I'm 46. I was in my 20's, he 50 when we married."
My 30 year AG with my so sometimes worries me as well, the same as it does in Netters story.

But, hey guys, lets not worry too much, lets just ENJOY love & life, thnx Natters for your story & overhill for yours! I love the words I read here!

Genie

One of my guinea pigs looked like this: (punky)
http://www.fourwinds.net/pet/pimg/guinea.jpg

Welcome :)

If you are interested about babies.. ask Nasmah.. she wants 12. :rolleyes:

Welcome NAt! :)

Hmmmm he meant 1-2 :D Really, if you ever had children they will have a loving dad and mom, no one can tell how long they will have a dad. My cousin lost her dad when she was 9yo, he was only 39 when he died.

So do not let things you have no control over lead your life, and just do what you feel is right, it is not unfair to your kids having an older dad; though i have always thought since they wont be able to choose; it is the parents duty trying to keep themselves healthy for their kids who deserve to have them for as long as possible.

Dont worry about anything that is not happening now and may not happen, enjoy what you have now and live each day to the fullest!

Overhill...Natalie is a total cutie! :D :)

If you are interested about babies.. ask Nasmah.. she wants 12. :rolleyes:
Poll <3's high fertility rates.

Poll <3's high fertility rates.

tHEN you can have 12 babies with Gunner :D

Oh noes, two republicans should not reproduce...see what could happen! LOL

http://i20.photobucket.com/albums/b246/Nolwen/baby_bush.jpg

I am j/k of course :p ;)

Dont worry about anything that is not happening now and may not happen, enjoy what you have now and live each day to the fullest!:)

Totally agree, that's what my dad told me about my 19 years AG with my boyfriend (me 22, him 41 + we are in LDR right now, I'm in Russia, he is in the USA). You can't even tell what happens in a months :)). Don't be afraid, just enjoy it right now!

Thanks guys, makes me feel a lot better.

i see what you say about dads dying, i lost mine at 9 and he was 39 (what a coincidence!? another!) and ian lost his at 18....obviously it is painful and i guess i'd be trying to avoid that but not everything can be perfect...another virgo thing! perfectionism. I dont particularly want children, im not a kidsy person, but i realise i might change my mind later on.

I've just had two guinea pig babies (well, lizzie the guineapig did, not me) and another two sows seem to be pregnant so i have my hands full with them right now!!! if these sows have another two each that brings the total to 13!!! maybe more!!! :eek: how did i end up with so many? its a long story!