How many kids do you want to have?

For those of you who already have kids, do you want more or are you done?

If you are done, is the number of kids you have the same number of kids you wanted when you were younger?

it's moot. i had my tubes tied in 1993 and I had an Endometrial Ablation in 2004. I have two boys from my first marriage.

it's moot. i had my tubes tied in 1993 and I had an Endometrial Ablation in 2004. I have two boys from my first marriage.
Fair enough. But you didn't answer my second question. :)

Fair enough. But you didn't answer my second question. :)


oh well when i was younger (21) and married to the first husband... i wanted 4. he wanted 8. we had comprimised on 6. I did have a miss back in 1989 shortly before we seperated but i was not trying to get pregnant so I had never taken a pregnancy test.... I was nursing so I just figured i was skipping a period....

I would have had more had my life been different.. (i.e. no divorce) but I was a SAHM and could afford to have as many as I wanted since we had no day care expenses and trust funds for college for any and all kids I had.

of course now I have 3 anyway since I have girl child.

I'd really like 4, but at the moment hubby is willing to agree to 3. So we're planning on 3, but we've got to get things going if we're going to do it.

We're looking at 0.

Nadine.

When I was really young I read the book Cheaper By The Dozen and I thought I wanted to have 12 kids. LOL! Then as I got a little older I didn't think about having children at all. I got married at 19 and had my son and that was it for me. Neither my husband or I wanted more.

Our marriage ended and I fell head-over-heels in love a few years later. We both wanted a child but we kind of left it up to God, nature, fate.

I had my daughter and my life has been blessed by two children who are wonderful, loving, fabulous human beings. I don't take credit for either of them.

Eventually I'm sure they will give me wonderful grandchildren......

It depends. If I have a partner, probably 2.

If I am single 1 or 2.

But that could all change.

Right now I dont want any. I dont like kids. I have never wanted any.

My bf has decided that he wants 2 kids.

I asked him one night if he was willing to eventually marry me if I never wanted to have children. He said yes and that we would be an awesome aunt and uncle. Works for me!

I just want one. Some seem to think that's selfish. "Your child will be lonely and they need a sibling!" Well, I know plenty of only children and they're doing just fine.

I realize I could change my mind in the future, but I'm pretty set on one. I don't feel the need to have a gaggle of kids. One works for me!:)

It keeps changing...

Always thought I wanted 5-6 because i'm one of 6...but that seems too much now.

Always thought I wanted to adopt, because my brother is adopted...but that seems tough to me.

So now i'm thinking maybe 2-3? That's if I can even have children :D Depends on the man, too....

I have one kid now, but I want to have another. There will be an age gap of ten years I'm thinking between my kids. I always wanted to have a family of two, but I was hoping the kids were from the same Mom. Oh well I was close! And having two kids from two different Moms is normal now...
But I will never shoot for a three-peat...three kids with three different Moms!! yikes...I know of some too... but no thank-you. That's too many women to have to deal with in the same day...hehe

I don't have a set number exactly. I do want 3 or 4.

DH and I are working on it. We want two or three.

I want at least two.
Preferably 2 girls or one of each.
For girls I like
Elizabeth Fiona.
and Kayliegh Renee.

Boys I'm partial to Colin and Thomas.
granted I MAY let the father have some imput if there is a father.
If I don't get married in the next 3 years I'm looking into singlemotherhood. Cause I'm running out of time and don't want to wait forever.

I always wanted 3 kids.

I have 5 bio kids and 2 stepkids.

I never planned on this many. I had 2 kids from my first marriage . DH and I went for #3 for each of us and ended up with twins & when they were 8 months old and still nursing (and I was on the pill) I got unexpectedly pregnant again.

So I went from 2 kids to 5 in the space of a year and a half. I have 3 kids under 18 months old.

Needless to say, I got my tubes tied. If I can get knocked up while breastfeeding, being on the pill, and with only one ovary, I don't want anymore surprises!

But, we're pretty happy with how things turned out.

breastfeeding, on the pill and one ovary??

what are the odds!!!!

Very, very low. On top of that, I have autoimmune issues that caused 4 losses and I had to have hormonal support and take baby aspirin to sustain my pregnancy with the twins, yet I had NO issues with this pregnancy.

If there is a plan to the universe, this was a child who was clearly meant to be. If not, well, he was a very random fluke. Either way, he is wonderful and I'm glad he's here.

John already has three kids but wants more. I'd like at least 2 of my own...but to tell you the truth, I'd be happy with however many I was blessed with.

I want two kids. Preferrably one boy and one girl. I don't mind however whichever way nature decides to swing it, a child will be a miracle for me. :D

I don't want any!! And I currently have a house full!!:p

~Jenna

I don't want any!! And I currently have a house full!!:p

~Jenna

lol! Don't worry....they'll be gone.....in another TWENTY years!!! :D :p ;)

lol! Don't worry....they'll be gone.....in another TWENTY years!!! :D :p ;)
Remember Homer Simpson's promise to his kids:
"Once you're 18, you're out the door!"

I've only been engaged for a little over a week. I'm already getting baby pressure! The other night the SO casually said, "By this time next year you might be pregnant!" My mom is counting down the days. Even my aunt asked, "When are you going to start trying?"

ARGH! I am NOT ready. I figure 34 is a great age to have a baby.;) We're not married yet. SLOW DOWN! LOL!

I've only been engaged for a little over a week. I'm already getting baby pressure! The other night the SO casually said, "By this time next year you might be pregnant!" My mom is counting down the days. Even my aunt asked, "When are you going to start trying?"

ARGH! I am NOT ready. I figure 34 is a great age to have a baby.;) We're not married yet. SLOW DOWN! LOL!

I had my daughter when I was 33 and it was a very good age. When I had my son, at 19, I was clueless. I was sick through the entire pregnancy and I just wanted it over with. When I was pregnant with my daughter it was almost like doing it for the first time. I was buying books and reading all kinds of things. Her father said "You've already done this once. You should know all about it." I said "I know but this is just different."

It was also a good age as far as maturity and responsibility. She graduated from high school in 2005, she's in college now, and is planning on moving out soon. I'll be 54 in March which is still young enough to now have my own life.

Doing it in my mid 30's worked out very well for me.

Doing it in my mid 30's worked out very well for me.

I think mid 30s is my time to have a child. Until then, everyone will just have to chill out and wait.:p

I think mid 30s is my time to have a child. Until then, everyone will just have to chill out and wait.:p

Yes, don't let anyone pressure you, including your SO.

I am 19 and my SO is 40. I am on dialysis and trying to get a kidney transplant, but I want to have at least one baby first. My SO wants one too; we've been trying, or not being careful, rather, since we have been together (almost a year). We've talked about it, and we want as many kids as we can have!! lol We didn't really set a number, but he does want one before he gets too old to enjoy him/her.

I want one or 2 babies :)))

For those of you who already have kids, do you want more or are you done?

I have no kids, but i would like two...though given the circumstances, I guess we will only be having one, but who knows

If you are done, is the number of kids you have the same number of kids you wanted when you were younger?
n/a :D

I want two! I think I want a girl first, but obviously would just be happy to have a healthy baby.

I've only been engaged for a little over a week. I'm already getting baby pressure! The other night the SO casually said, "By this time next year you might be pregnant!" My mom is counting down the days. Even my aunt asked, "When are you going to start trying?"

ARGH! I am NOT ready. I figure 34 is a great age to have a baby.;) We're not married yet. SLOW DOWN! LOL!

YIKES!!! I'm glad to know that I'm not the only one who's getting the baby pressure! Although my problem is that I have no idea how to tell them that we're not planning on having any.

Nadine.

I really want a baby too, but so does my hunny! We've been trying, but it hasn't happened yet... :( I think it's bc of all my medical probs. I'm going to talk to my DR ASAP!!

I wish I were getting baby pressure! I want one, STAT, and my mom is like HOLD ON, wait like 10 years!

I think Brian wants to wait a few months after we get married to start trying, but we'll see what happens!
Same here! Everytime something baby comes up in conversation, my mom is like get the degree FIRST.

I didn't want any until I met my BF. But he's such an amazing person and would make a wonderful father. So now I'd like 1, possibly 2. Definitely, if we stay together, we'd like to have a child - we've talked about it. Ideally once I'm out of college, but if it happens before then ... who knows. I don't want to wait too long, though, because it takes energy to raise children and he's not getting any younger! (Although actually, I sometimes wonder ...) ;)

Well, when Litical and I first started discussing kids, we had determined that we would have ONE. Mostly because I already have TWO. I always wanted my "third," my Ender, and he is an only child.

BUT, he decided to pronounce at a party last weekend that he'd like two. :eek: Oh geeeezus. I can't do two more pregnancies. At least, I really don't think I could do it, nor do I think I want to. The only way I would try is if we had a girl first, and then only in the hopes to preserve his family name.

Four just strikes me as too much and I'm not a fan of even numbers. :o I know, weird justifications for my feelings, but still. I'm 35 now and we're NOT planning on trying anytime soon for even the ONE, and I don't want to be nearing or over 40 having babies, y'know?

I guess we can hope for twins to assauge both of our desires, but that's just gonna come down to luck of the draw! *sigh*

~phos

Well, when Litical and I first started discussing kids, we had determined that we would have ONE. Mostly because I already have TWO. I always wanted my "third," my Ender, and he is an only child.

BUT, he decided to pronounce at a party last weekend that he'd like two. :eek: Oh geeeezus. I can't do two more pregnancies. At least, I really don't think I could do it, nor do I think I want to. The only way I would try is if we had a girl first, and then only in the hopes to preserve his family name.

Four just strikes me as too much and I'm not a fan of even numbers. :o I know, weird justifications for my feelings, but still. I'm 35 now and we're NOT planning on trying anytime soon for even the ONE, and I don't want to be nearing or over 40 having babies, y'know?

I guess we can hope for twins to assauge both of our desires, but that's just gonna come down to luck of the draw! *sigh*

~phos

Phos,

Let him handle some of those 2AM feedings and lots of diaper changes and he may just change his mind. lol!

LOL Trish. I kind of doubt that. Litical was always very good, even long before we started dating, about helping out with the kids... changing diapers and feedings never seemed to bother him. :eek: I have a feeling that there will be more fights over the ONE baby on who gets to HOLD/FEED/Diaper him/her then there would be on who HAS to.

Litical is soooooo not like your normal man. The only reason we're holding off on having one right now is $$ and not yet being married.. that is the only reason!

~phos

LOL Trish. I kind of doubt that. Litical was always very good, even long before we started dating, about helping out with the kids... changing diapers and feedings never seemed to bother him. :eek: I have a feeling that there will be more fights over the ONE baby on who gets to HOLD/FEED/Diaper him/her then there would be on who HAS to.

Litical is soooooo not like your normal man. The only reason we're holding off on having one right now is $$ and not yet being married.. that is the only reason!

~phos

Awww! Guess you just have to play it by ear....I sometimes think I should have had another one shortly after my daughter.

LOL Trish. I kind of doubt that. Litical was always very good, even long before we started dating, about helping out with the kids... changing diapers and feedings never seemed to bother him. :eek: I have a feeling that there will be more fights over the ONE baby on who gets to HOLD/FEED/Diaper him/her then there would be on who HAS to.

Litical is soooooo not like your normal man. The only reason we're holding off on having one right now is $$ and not yet being married.. that is the only reason!

~phos

Awww! Guess you just have to play it by ear....I sometimes think I should have had another one shortly after my daughter.

YIKES!!! I'm glad to know that I'm not the only one who's getting the baby pressure! Although my problem is that I have no idea how to tell them that we're not planning on having any.

Nadine.

Just come right out and say it. Personally, I hate it when family members try to lay on pressure when it comes to babies. You want a baby so badly? Adopt one and leave me alone!

To be honest, I go back and forth and the SO pointed it out the other day. He basically told me to make a decision: Do I want a child or not?

I do believe I want one, but I also like my sleep, my money, and my freedom. LOL! J/K... sorta.;)

The days I don't want kids are the times I witness kids flouncing around like Little Lord Fauntelroy.:rolleyes: :mad:

I think two would be nice. I wouldn't want more than two unless I was very wealthy b/c it's important to me to be financially prepared for the kids.

I definately don't want kids right now--still establishing myself in the world. I feel way too young. But I def. want a family down the line, I can't imagine a whole life with out my own family and would definately consider adoption based on several factors in both my and my OM's life.

I do believe I want one, but I also like my sleep, my money, and my freedom. LOL! J/K... sorta.;)


people shouldn't be sorry or apologize for wanted to be selfish! i'd be bad if they still wanted to be selfish AFTER they had a kid. Me personally, right now, I'm still in my selfish period. I think at some point I'll be ready to give up my freedom and then have a kid. Right now though ... it's all about ME!

people shouldn't be sorry or apologize for wanted to be selfish! i'd be bad if they still wanted to be selfish AFTER they had a kid. Me personally, right now, I'm still in my selfish period. I think at some point I'll be ready to give up my freedom and then have a kid. Right now though ... it's all about ME!

I agree. There's nothing wrong with flat out saying I need time for me still and I am young and like my routine and am not ready to add a baby to it.

The people who should apologize are the ones who have babies and aren't ready and then don't take care of them properly.

Well, I always wanted 2, but I was miserable pregnant. When I was with my ex husband, I wanted another, and he didn't. Now that I'm with my bf, barring a miracle from God, I will only have my son. And that's okay with me. I was blessed to have one healthy, amazing child after losing one pregnancy. So I actually have two children, but only one is with me. Plus, when bf and I get married, I will gain a stepdaughter, so that will make 2 with us. :D And I don't have to go through the losing sleep and the feedings every 2-3 hours!! LOL

Although my problem is that I have no idea how to tell them that we're not planning on having any.

I thought you wanted kids. No? :confused:

Four just strikes me as too much and I'm not a fan of even numbers.

One of my sisters-in-law has 8 children, and another one has 7. :eek:

I've only been engaged for a little over a week. I'm already getting baby pressure! The other night the SO casually said, "By this time next year you might be pregnant!" My mom is counting down the days. Even my aunt asked, "When are you going to start trying?"

ARGH! I am NOT ready. I figure 34 is a great age to have a baby.;) We're not married yet. SLOW DOWN! LOL!

WHAT!!!! :eek:

I missed that!!!???? He proposed to you over the holidays - did he pop the question at Christmas? YAY - congrats Goldfire! Details please!

And I agree with you - to me, 30s is the time to have kids. Mind you, I'm already 30 and don't feel ready...getting there. But who knows, we're not engaged yet, and who knows if that will happen. I think he'd make such a great dad though.

I thought you wanted kids. No? :confused:

For now...I don't want kids. In ten years? I'm still not sure.

We've agreed to put the situation on the back burner for now and re-evaluate when/if the time comes.

Nadine.