Lonesome, need advice

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Sorry to hear you're feeling lonely. (((((HUGS)))))

I know how tough it is to get over someone, even though you were the one who broke it off. The first few weeks are the worst. I remember when I broke up with my ex, I was really upset and cried for three days straight. I read a ton of how-to-survive-a-breakup books and watched sappy romantic comedies like "Pretty Woman" and "The American President". In my grief-crazed state, I even toyed with the idea of getting back together with him (BAD IDEA). I went out with friends a lot and flirted with boys online. Now THAT was a big help! :D

Whatever you do tomorrow, make sure to get out of the house and do something FUN. Do NOT stay home and think about your ex or your anniversary. Go shopping, see a movie, hook up with friends--ANYTHING to get your mind off him. For my ex's and my anniversary, I threw a big dinner party for a bunch of friends and we had such a blast.

Make a list of all the things about him and the relationship that drove you crazy and stick it up somewhere so you can see it every day. Remember that you broke up with him for a reason!

(((((((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))))))))

I wish I had some advice for you - I am in the process of ending my 6 year relationship - I'm not sure how I will handle it myself.

I think emzak gave you some great advice, I especially love her list idea! I imagine the most important thing is to keep busy and to surround yourself with people who care about you - a good support system is always helpful during times of change and stress.

And don't give in to the lonelyness!!! It will get better!!! Pretty soon you will hardly be thinking of him!!!

I have a rule for times like these, and others I've shared this rule with have found it useful. It's really quite simple.

It's called the 12 hour rule. (time can be changed to suit you)
Anytime you feel you've made a decision about something, wait 12 hours and see if you feel the same way. 9 times out of 10 you change your mind about this decision within that time frame. Again, it's simple, but it really works.

Awww....Mouse. Lonliness is tough, and only time makes it better. And time doesn't always make it all better.

The only thing I gotta say about breakups, is if you are serious about not wanting to be in the relationship....DON'T CALL HIM. Don't call to say hi, don't call to see what he is thinking...bad bad. Its like quitting smoking, there is no such thing as one cigarette...because eventually you'll be right back there and will have to go through the really HARD withdrawal part again!

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Good luck girl!

Oh man Mouse...I'm sorry to hear this...I know it's going to be hard...but I know that you can get through this.

I would just take some time for myself...maybe pamper yourself a little bit. I know a nice long bath and a good book always works for me.

(((((HUGS)))))

And if all else fails...we're here for you. If you need to call someone...you can call me! :D

Nadine.