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How to win friends and influence people

Emzak
02-05-2006, 09:55 AM
Excerpt from Dale Carnegie's bestseller...


Fundamental Techniques in Handling People:

1. Don't criticize, condemn or complain.
2. Give honest and sincere appreciation.
3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.

Six Ways to Make People Like You:

1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
2. Smile.
3. Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
5. Talk in terms of the other person's interests.
6. Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.

Win People to Your Way of Thinking:

1. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
2. Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never say "You're wrong."
3. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
4. Begin in a friendly way.
5. Get the other person saying "yes, yes" immediately.
6. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
7. Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
8. Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view.
9. Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.
10. Appeal to the nobler motives.
11. Dramatize your ideas.
12. Throw down a challenge.

Be a Leader:

1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
2. Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly.
3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
5. Let the other person save face.
6. Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise.
7. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
8. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
9. Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.

Emzak
02-05-2006, 10:40 AM
I am soooooooooooooo bad with names. Either I don't remember at all, or I do but I'm too nervous to say it because I'm scared of pronouncing it wrong or accidentally saying someone else's name. Argh!

Salt
02-06-2006, 06:25 PM
Hmmmmm. The title says it all.

1 - How to win friends. Is there a prize here? Door 1, 2, or 3?

I prefer to make friends by just being me. Those I make are genuine. It's not a game.

2- and influence people.

Join Congress. You'll have lots of cash for winning friends too.:eek:

:D :cool:

fos4snt
02-06-2006, 07:28 PM
:eek: *runs into thread just to give SALT a hug, nods, smiles, agrees wholeheartedly, hugs SALT again and runs out*

~phos

Emzak
02-07-2006, 02:46 PM
LOL you guys are silly :D

Flanker
02-26-2006, 10:23 PM
Winning a friend sounds like capturing a POW. :)

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