Oral Sex

[Goldfire]

Originally Posted by kr5019

See, one time, he told me that he hates going through the fish section at the grocery because he thinks it smells "gross". He says whenever he smells tuna, he cringes and thinks about how vaginas smell. I told him not all smell like that (I KNOW mine doesn't for sure, I've been with a couple guys and they liked doing oral sex) but he says his wife's did...that's the only one he's had. He HATED doing oral to her because of that.

I don't mean to be crude, but how many vaginas has he actually smelled?

A vagina that smells like fish has something really wrong with it. A fishy odor is NOT a woman's natural smell. The fishy odor should only happen if a) a woman doesn't keep herself clean and b) she has an infection.

It sounds like he got traumatized from that one smelly vagina and seems to think all smell like that. Sit on his face and show him how great yours smells.

[kr5019]

Originally Posted by Goldfire

I don't mean to be crude, but how many vaginas has he actually smelled?

A vagina that smells like fish has something really wrong with it. A fishy odor is NOT a woman's natural smell. The fishy odor should only happen if a) a woman doesn't keep herself clean and b) she has an infection.

It sounds like he got traumatized from that one smelly vagina and seems to think all smell like that. Sit on his face and show him how great yours smells.

Don't worry, you're not being crude. He's only "smelled" 1 woman...his ex wife.

He's been with women before, yes, but never went down on them. He met his wife when he was young and got totally traumatized and NEVER went down on a woman again.

I don't mean to sound crude, but I've had like 2-3 separate guys (independent of each other) tell me that I have an "apple-y" scent. I love apples. I eat 2-3 a day as snacks and have done that for years. I wash myself and I know there is NOTHING fishy.

Should I really be that bold? I mean, I'm ok with not getting oral...I'm worried about me doing something like that and then him throwing up

[jesique]

I think you should be that bold! You don't want the man to spend his whole life thinking all women smell fishy!!!!! LOL!!!

Alec says he has problems breathing. I know this is true because he has nasal issues but trust me when I say I just tell him to suck it up and get to it!

[Goldfire]

Originally Posted by kr5019

Should I really be that bold? I mean, I'm ok with not getting oral...I'm worried about me doing something like that and then him throwing up

I was being more tongue in cheek because no one wants someone sitting on their face unless they know what's coming. LOL!

However, if you enjoyed it in the past there is nothing wrong with wanting to try with your SO. I think you've become okay with it because you think it's no longer an option. I would probably be the same way.

If your vagina smells like apples... well, he's missing out! Most men I know LOVE to give oral.

[kr5019]

Yeah I guess you're right.

I guess I can bring it up again sometime when we're together. He's open about talking about these things, but if he's worried about trying it, I'm not going to force it.

I personally don't think I smell like apples but that's what I've been told. It's more of a sweet smell than anything else. He's missing out. ;D

[Goldfire]

Originally Posted by kr5019

Yeah I guess you're right.

I guess I can bring it up again sometime when we're together. He's open about talking about these things, but if he's worried about trying it, I'm not going to force it.

I personally don't think I smell like apples but that's what I've been told. It's more of a sweet smell than anything else. He's missing out. ;D

Nah, don't force it if he doesn't have any interest. He'll only resent you down the road.

Have a conversation about it and ask (as weird as it sounds) if he'd be willing to at least smell you. He might think the request is totally bizarre, but I'm thinking if he knows not all vaginas smell like a sewer filled with dead fish... he may come around.

You might also tell him that male genitals don't always smell like a bed of roses, that smell is individual. Mention Shan's points in her post (she made excellent points from a biological stand point).

[Jamie]

If you'are happy without it and it isn't an issue in your relationship than I would leave it alone entirely. If you have curiosity, then express that but don't push him beacuse that will only cause unnecessary tension.

[kr5019]

Thanks for the advice guys.

I don't know what I'll do yet. I don't feel too compelled to bring it up. I think I'll just wait and see for next time that I go over and see how we both feel then.

[athenaseyes]

I don't know about your situation, but I had a similar experience on the opposite end with my OM.

I had a bad experience years ago and decided that I was just never going to give a guy oral. (didn't apply to girls )

I'm pretty sexually experienced- like I'd try anything but oral. Until my guy came along. Now I've become a complete giver when it comes to oral. I actually love doing it. For him at least. (Still gag at even the thought of doing it for another guy).

Every guy would ask for it, but he never did. One day I was kissing his stomach and I just did it. Suprisingly I enjoyed it and do it all the time now. Gotten pretty good at it I'd like to think

It used to bother me when guys pushed the issue. So, if anything let yours warm up to the idea maybe? Maybe tell him you really like being kissed and licked all over your stomach/inner thighs and maybe one day he'll just jump in.