Oral Sex

[Wang]

Here is a general question for the guys, how do you feel about giving oral sex to your woman?

It seems like these days its very common and almost an automatic given that women give it to men, but don't know if it's that way vice versa. I heard one of my guy friends say "it's more of a big deal for guys to give it" hhmmm, not sure if I get that?!

just curious. thanks!

[chikygrl13]

Originally Posted by Wang

"it's more of a big deal for guys to give it"

I'm not sure I buy this. It's been my experience that most men enjoy giving as much (if not more) that they enjoy getting. My man absolutely LOVES it!! (which in turn makes me a VERY HAPPY woman!) My ex NEVER did it (but he didn't like getting it either...)

I'm sure there are men who don't like it, but do it cause it makes women happy. I know giving it is certainly not my most favorite thing in the world, but I do it. It makes my boyfriend happy.(though the thought of swallowing just grosses me out, much to Ed's dismay)

[Goldfire]

I give if I receive. If I don't receive you're not getting shit.

My best friend will NOT do it, but she definitely likes to receive. She finds it demeaning and digusting. To each their own. If I were her husband I wouldn't give until I got something in return.

[Wang]

Goldfire, I may adopt your policy. I'm a huge giver, enjoy it partially because it makes my partner happy. I don't get it in return though, over the two years just a couple of times even though I've expressed my wishes on it. He's extremely unexperienced though and really doesn't know how to do much, and is hesitant about trying.

[Goldfire]

Originally Posted by Wang

Goldfire, I may adopt your policy. I'm a huge giver, enjoy it partially because it makes my partner happy. I don't get it in return though, over the two years just a couple of times even though I've expressed my wishes on it. He's extremely unexperienced though and really doesn't know how to do much, and is hesitant about trying.

Tell him how hot you find it and let him know you'll guide him through it. Every woman is different in what she likes to receive. Have a night where you both kind of experiment and play around. He's probably hesitant to do it because he doesn't want to be awful and not please you.

Let him know it's a two way street and you're totally open to walking him through it. Ask him how you can improve on your technique so it looks like you're not being critical.

Enjoy!

[jesique]

Ive always been more of a giver than a receiver. What a bummer!

Nadine.

[Wang]

I feel your pain jesique. i do find it interesting that guys aren't weighting in here saying how much they give it, love it, etc. Would be curious to know how they really feel about it.

Thanks Goldfire, have been there with it all, doesn't seem to make any difference.

[Goldfire]

Originally Posted by Wang

Thanks Goldfire, have been there with it all, doesn't seem to make any difference.

Then it becomes a sexual compatibility issue. If he's not willing to try or learn and refuses to open his mind... you could end up resenting him big time down the road.

[Wang]

this is true. or turn it inward and feel like you are undesireable. either one is not a good option . . .

[tonythefatcat]

My ex husband said that he loved giving it but complained I had a "smell". WTF ever my previous boyfriend and my husband now have no problem with my "smell". I think that he like the ideal of oral but truly didnt really like it...

[Wang]

too funny. i've thought about all that too so make extra special efforts to wax, keep things extremely tidy, etc. i think it's like you say, "truly didn't like it . . . "

[Goldfire]

I always find it amusing when men bitch about a woman's smell. Of course if a chick doesn't keep herself clean or clean up before the act she's going to smell. Just the way it is. However, if men think their junk doesn't emit an odor from time to time... they are sadly mistaken. I've refused to give because the guy was kickin' some serious sweaty ball smell. It's not just women who can smell.